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29 October 2007 @ 10:34 pm
It took me only about three months ago for me to have the courage to try and join.

I don't love my boyfriend. I would not put as much effort as I would for my family to save him if the time came. I am not dumb.

05 November 2006 @ 06:27 pm
Think of a word, phrase or idea that reminds you of your love life, your significant other, your ideas about love or anything else pertaining to love. Then, go to Google Image Search or your image search of choice and search for your word. Pick an image you like and post it here as an annonymous comment.

Replies to comments are allowed, but the original poster is under no obligation to reply back.
23 October 2006 @ 11:56 pm
I almost always miss you.
After all this time, I can't stop missing you.
I love you so much.
I really do; and I hope you believe me; I hope you know that there isn't any shred of doubt in my mind that I love you.

You deserve the best, hon.
There's nothing I have that I wouldn't give you.
There's isn't anything I wouldn't do for you.
Current Ballad: Nessum Dorma
23 October 2006 @ 06:43 am
Break Up Battle

To help people with their break ups by either telling their story or hearing about others, etc. ^_^
Current Inspiration: contentcontent
22 October 2006 @ 08:08 pm

For those of you in relationships or out of them, either works just fine. Reply to this entry anonymously with a song that describes your love life, outlook on love, and/or a song that fits love very well right now to you.. and a couple lines from the song too.

It's just a fun exercise, don't think you have to. ^_^

P.S - If people do post anything, don't ask them about it.

Current Inspiration: contentcontent
18 October 2006 @ 05:54 pm
Oysters, champagne, chocolate, strawberries all promise to ignite passions in the bedroom. But now there’s a new philosophy about why these aphrodisiacs work: They’re good for your heart. And what’s good for your heart is good for your libido, too. After all, if your arteries are clogged, getting blood to flow down south can be problematic, says Bonnie Dix, M.A., R.D., of the American Dietetic Association. In fact, research shows that when obese men lose weight and get more exercise their erections improve.

Here are some of our favorite romance-enhancing wonders:

Fish (Including Oysters): Fatty fish like oysters, salmon, scallops and sardines are loaded with healthful monounsaturated fats called Omega 3s. And they carry a hefty dose of testosterone boosting zinc, too.

Alcohol (Champagne): So you’ve already heard the buzz that a daily glass of red (or white for that matter) raises good cholesterol and helps prevent arteries from clogging. Just go easy. "Too much alcohol can reduce testosterone levels and sperm count," says Dix. All you’ll want to do in bed is sleep.

Whole Grains, Nuts and Seeds: Research shows that whole grains -- especially oats -- help lower cholesterol, keeping your arteries clean. Load up on foods heavy in healthful monounsaturated fats, vitamin E and zinc. "Each of these nutrients are linked with increased sexual desire," says Dix.

Vegetables: It’s no coincidence that fruits and vegetables have an erotic appearance. According to the Doctrine of Signatures, if a food resembles a particular body part, it aids that body part. "Asparagus is a phallic symbol," says Martha Hopkins, co-author of 'Inter-Courses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook.' "Artichokes play hard to get -- you have to get past the spiked leaves and prickly interior to get to the velvety-smooth heart." Next time you bite into a strawberry, see what it looks like!

Spices: The right spices not only heat things up on the tongue, but also in the bedroom. "Chili pepper and ginger help improve circulation," says Dix, "and hot spices like cayenne, curry and cumin help warm the body."

Chocolate: Don’t forget the chocolate, especially if you like it bitter. Cocoa is a stimulant that increases sensitivity. Now you have a certifiable reason to indulge in a square of a 70 percent chocolate bar. The favored dessert fix also contains methylxanthines, which stimulate the transmission of nerve signals.
Current Inspiration: contentcontent
17 October 2006 @ 06:56 pm
Disclaimer: This was already prewritten towards female readers. But it applies to the males as well, I suppose. ^_^

Of all the ingredients that make up a great relationship, trust may be the trickiest of them all. Why? Because it's hard to know how much you should give -- and how soon. Besides, after dating the jerk who cheated/lied/led you on, the men that follow will be hard pressed to get a fair shot with you.

There are lots of men out there who test the old adage, but every man is not a dog. Since we do want a good man, we're going to have to learn to get over our hurt and be open to the possibility of love.

So the last guy hurt you, and so did the guy before that, and the guy before that. Maybe the new guy is doing things that remind you of the jerks who broke your heart, but that's no reason to treat him like he is.

Part of dating means leaving yourself open. Not wide open, but open enough to experience the good -- and possibly the bad -- of the guy you're interested in. Don't punish the new guy for the old guy's mistakes. Give him a chance to win you over; it just may be worth it.

The moment you start expressing yourself freely, you know you've got a man who's earned your trust. Whether it's sharing secrets from your past or just expressing your feelings, letting him into your world can be scary, but honesty is still the best policy in any relationship.

Opening up to your mate is also a way of becoming more intimate with him. Just be careful you don't share too much too quickly; you don't want to push him away.

Hate to put this out there ladies, but we are prone to playing a few mind games with the fellas. If he's unavailable one night, suddenly you're unavailable. He takes a little too long to call you back, you take forever to call him back.

Playing games doesn't help you to establish a pattern of trust, so just don't do it. Instead, be honest, someone he can trust, and he'll be more likely to follow suit.

There is nothing wrong with following your instincts, but not if you attack your new guy whenever something doesn't sit right with you.

Just because something rubs you the wrong way doesn't necessarily mean that something shady is going on. Stop reading into everything, and if you think something is awry, sleep on it and approach it with a clear head the next day. That way, you don’t feel the need to pressure, question or overreact based on predictions, which would just push him away.

Far be it for us to steal words of wisdom from a Harry Potter book, but when it's true, it's true. Men are strange creatures, thinking and behaving in ways that have made no sense to generations and generations of women before you.

The man you're dating now is probably no different. He won't use a map to take you to that B&B in the woods, but you can relax knowing that he will still get you there.

Trust, just like the best relationships, builds with your partner over time. Your first date is all about making a good impression, so your hair and nails are done up just right, and you buy the perfect outfit. But make it to the seventh date, and the MAC comes off, and the real you comes out.

When you no longer feel like you have to be on your best behavior, it's a definite sign that your new beau has made you feel comfortable and safe, so you may want to drop your guard a little. Just a little.

When you keep choosing men who end up doing you wrong, it can be hard to believe that you're actually capable of picking a good guy. But you are. Dating bad boys doesn't make you a bad girl, as long as you're paying attention to the lessons learned along the way.

Take the mistakes you've made and apply them to the men you pick in the future. And do yourself a favor; don't spend anymore of your time worrying about the ones that got away.

Constructive arguing is a sign of respect. It shows that while he may want to win the argument, he's not willing to tear you down to do it.

Being with someone who can be angry without trying to hurt you is definitely a plus. Not only can you feel safe knowing that there are some lines that won't be crossed, there's more of a chance you'll come to a resolution at the end of the disagreement.
Current Inspiration: contentcontent
14 October 2006 @ 11:56 pm
It's never a good idea to get really angry at your lover.
Well, anger is natural, and normal, but it's never good to be harsh.

It's best to keep calm, even if you're going insane, because if you explode, you'll probably just end up getting into conflicts that will make you hurt even more.

Hurt is something that can only be fixed with love and understanding.
Anger will just make the hurt worse.

So if you ever confront your lovers, do it in a gentle way, observing your lover's feelings but also making sure that your lover understands just what is hurting you so much, and why.
12 October 2006 @ 06:13 am
Unhappiness in relationships, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. Sometimes we don't understand our partner's requirements, or even our own. We all have a "love tank" that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others.
Current Inspiration: calmcalm
11 October 2006 @ 06:56 pm
What Is Cheating?

It depends. It's cheating if a partner defies the ground rules of the relationship. But there are different kinds of relationships and that means different rules may apply for different couples. Some people may consider flirting with an online buddy cheating, and some people may think cheating only applies to having sex or sex play with someone else cheating. That's why it's important to make our expectations clear to our partners about what's cool and what's not.

Why Cheat?

People cheat on their partners for many reasons. Some people are looking for a new thrill or are craving excitement. It might be that a partner is not really committed to the relationship or is using cheating for revenge because she's angry about something you did. And some people may cheat because they just didn't have the will power to say no — using drugs and alcohol often play a role in lowering our inhibitions and causing us to make unhealthy decisions about sex.

Are You SURE?

You suspect she's cheating but you've never caught her in the act. What should you do?

Consider your history. Did your last love cheat? Could you be overly worried?

Talk it out. Clarify how you feel about cheating. You could bring up a TV or real-life situation: "I was shocked to hear Joe cheated on Caitlin — weren't you?" If you can be straight without sounding accusatory, try: "I've got this funny feeling. I hope it's not true." Be respectful. Give your partner a chance to listen and respond.

Get another opinion. Talk to an impartial, trustworthy someone (maybe even a counselor). *Friends of him or your own are not impartial.

Protect yourself. If you're having sex with someone who's having sex with someone else, infection-wise, the three of you are sharing one bed. You are at risk of getting a sexually transmitted infection from your partner's other partner. Using condoms can reduce the risk of these infections.

How can you avoid "cheated-on" pain? Your goal is a strong healthy connection with your partner, complete with two-way trust.

These things help:

Talk the talk. Discuss and agree on what your expectations are as a couple. Be clear about what you consider cheating. Don't just wait for the situation to arise.

Walk the talk. You say you want an exclusive relationship, but how about your suggestive comments to that cute stranger at the coffee shop? Act as respectful to your relationship as you expect him to be.

Don't balk at more talking. Hash out your problems as they come up, instead of collecting a gutful of grievances.

After the Fact

Some couples who have survived cheating actually claim stronger relationships, thanks to improved communication and commitment. You might be able to salvage your relationship if...

You can talk it out — no holds barred. You can tell her you won't tolerate cheating ever again. Maybe she'll be able to reassure you that it won't happen again.

You feel confident you can learn to trust him again.

You know the relationship is worth the work to save it.

On the other hand, in the card game of love, you gotta know when to fold 'em. Some relationships aren't worth saving. Is he good enough for you? Only you can make that decision.

Whatever happens, don't let your partner's actions wreck your life. Betrayal can feel really hurtful. When it comes to feeling hurt, the old saying rings true — time heals all wounds. A betrayal will eventually become one memory out of millions. Keep enjoying things you love to do. Never let one person ruin your outlook on all future partners.

credit: teenwire.com
Current Inspiration: contentcontent
08 October 2006 @ 11:17 pm
I am the new maintainer.
No, not really, I just changed lj's from tsuki_rose_boy to nerdlylover.

I hope all of you are doing well in your relationships and your pursuits of love, and in your overall life.
If not, hang on; things will change!

I'd just like to say that I myself am happyily in love.
It doesn't ever really end; relationships grow for as long as you want them to.
Keep your lovers growing!
Current Inspiration: contentlove = cool,unlike cellphones!
Current Ballad: "The Engine Driver" and "On the Bus Mall"- The Decemberists
24 September 2006 @ 02:54 pm

They're called "The Ditty Bops".
And this is a lovely song/video.

And I LOVE this band.


(no, I have no idea if they're lesbians or anything. I think they just wanted to make the video that way?)
I think it's cute and pretty, and they're wearing hot skirts.
Not to mention that I love "The Ditty Bops" music.
While researching rural life more than 20 years ago, Paul C. Rosenblatt took his 12-year-old son with him to interview farm families in the Midwest. Father and son stayed in a farmhouse and had to share a bed.

“It was terrible,” said Dr. Rosenblatt, a professor of sociology at the University of Minnesota, Twin Cities, because his son thrashed and turned so much that “his feet were in my face all night.”

Tired and bedraggled the next day, he recalled thinking about how challenging it can be to adapt to sleeping with another person.

“They quite often would tell me that they dealt with their grief by holding each other and talking together in bed at night,” he said. “It seemed that I kept being reminded of how sharing a bed impacts our lives and sense of well-being.”

Current Inspiration: calmcalm
20 September 2006 @ 10:25 pm
I told you how I felt.
You feel the same way.
I feel so relieved.

I would probably feel super happy and releived, but the phone is so damned impersonal.
I might get some time with you tomorrow though.
yay ^^
11 September 2006 @ 11:00 pm
I miss you.
So much. You have no idea how much I miss you.
Well, maybe you do.
I'm a silly boy with a silly head, and silly needs. I think silly things, and I can be really fragile sometimes, and sometimes really strong.
And you love me.
After a year and 4 months.

I hope you know, that there is NOBODY in the whole world who makes me as happy as you do. I just hope that you feel the same way.
I love you, my girl.
First of all, I've made a new layout for this community because it's late at night, I'm listening to showtunes, and this is my week of getting-artsy-fartsy-crap done. 

Speaking of which..

Mary? Adrian?

Guess what I made for you...?

Current Inspiration: busybusy
27 June 2006 @ 06:41 pm
"Bad Feelings" by The Robot Ate Me

Look into her eyes
And let her know why
You wanna be
Her everything.
You don't need to call it love.
You don't need to call it love.

There's been a lot of bad feelings
About life, about living.

She's been feeling pretty bad about life.
She's been feeling pretty bad about life.

Look into her eyes, and
Let her know why
You wanna be
Her everything.
You don't need to call it love.
You don't need to call it love.
You don't need to call it...love.
19 June 2006 @ 10:31 pm
Fragil by Allison

Me como las uñas
todo por tu culpa
a caso no sabes
que mi alma es tuya
Maldita la hora
en que te vi a los ojos
te veo y yo creo
que todo es un sueño

Dime otra vez
que me quieres
y que no te iras
dime otra vez que eres mia y de nadie mas

Me encantan tus ojos
que son como el cielo
los veo y no creo que pueda tenerlos
si estoy en el cielo me voy al infierno
todo por tu cuerpo
maldito deseo

Chorus 4x

que me quieres
y que no te iras
05 June 2006 @ 12:03 am

what is the point of this group?
and then tell them everyhthing. and then do an irish jig.